The words and actions of a mentor carries great weight. They have to be very careful with the words they use and how they choose to use them, but mentees also have a responsibility to weigh that advice to see if it is good or bad advice for them. They have to keep in mind that mentors are human and that their advice will not always be right for them.
“The vast majority of advice you’ll be given in your life will be one of two types: Either ‘Do what I did’ or ‘Do what’s best for me right now.’ Make sure you take the time to identify if either is the case before taking the advice at face value.”
Here are some tips on how to measure the advice that you receive and apply it to your life:
Critical thinking is necessary. Take the time to think about the advice that you received and weigh the pros and cons of how that advice will work in your life. Think about the consequences of those pros and cons. Don’t take what they are saying as marching orders.
Consider the place in which the advice is coming from. Is the advice about you or is about what worked best for them in the past or would work in their life right now? Is the advice grounded in fear? Is the advice somehow rooted in that person’s insecurities?
Trust your gut. If the advice doesn’t sit well in your spirit then the advice is probably not for you. Say thank you, but no thank you to their advice.
Consider how well the person knows you. If the person doesn’t know you well then it is possible that their advice is rooted in an issue that has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Consider the type and level of energy you feel. Listen to your body. It will tell you when something doesn’t feel right. Energy can be felt just like physical touch.
When in doubt ask your mother, father or someone you truly trust. Share the advice with them. Their meter for reading BS is far more fine tuned their your own.